On a vendor point of view, trust me when i say we can instantly pick up bridezilla vibes from working with so many brides. Dia ada macam satu jenis nya aura tau, even though kalau berbual kat FB je. Betul, tak tipu.
So, dear btbs, i know you’re excited about your wedding. But vendors do not lurk on their FB page every hour to check on your PM enquiries. If they do, maknanya either dorang takde kerja lain, pasal takde business ataupun dorang kaya sangat, so dia upah orang untuk jaga FB page dia every hour. The latter is quite unlikely though.
So if they do not reply your FB enquiries within 12 hours, it’s ok. Give them at least 24 hours before you try another way of contacting them. eg; email or calling. If it was that urgent, you would have just called them on the spot kan? If you FB message a vendor at 2.00am, please do not expect them to reply by 8.00am pls. Not everybody have the same sleeping pattern as you.
and when u call, if we don’t pick up the first call, u try the second time. If we still don’t pick up, that means we are busy and you just call us back later in the day or send out a sms but you do not give someone 23 missed calls in 8 minutes (that’s what happened to me, honestly) because that will seriously irritate your vendor or anyone as a matter of fact when they see the no of missed calls they see on their phone.
If you want to have a pleasant wedding, do not exhibit your perangai bridezilla yang membuak-buak. Because it is a turn-off. When you keep thinking that everything will go wrong on your Big Day, then it will go wrong. Because kau sendiri yang mintak. Apa kita cakap tu selalunya satu doa.
I personally do not mind brides asking lots of questions about my services. I would be glad to share, after all i am running a business and that is part of it kan. But, you do not snap at a vendor and say:
Bridezilla: “Eh asal mahal sangat sey? My sister dulu buat lagik murah”
Me: “dia buat kat mana and bila?”
Bridezilla: “Dia buat kat JB. Angsana i think. Dia kahwin 2008”.
Me: “eh? asal u tak kahwin time 2008 sekali? leh dapat murah.”
My point is, harga 2008 ngan 2012 jauh berbeza dik. Dulu aku beli nasi lemak $1.50 pun ley dapat. Kakak kau buat kat JB, sayang. Currency sana lagik rendah dari kita. Kau nak buat kat singapore, then kau bayar lah in SGD, takkan kita nak charge kau in MYR kan? Apa stim?
Lagi satu, when you finally choose your vendors, that means u love their past works and you want that for your wedding, even though u want something customised, you know your vendor is capable of doing it. That’s why you went ahead and book their services. True?
So trust your choice, trust your vendor. You personally booked the vendor anyway, takde orang yang paksa kau choose kita kan? So please takmo mintak yang bukan2 like, “can you do a draft of my wedding cards first? Kalau i suka, then i amik you”.
Do you tell your Deco people to do a mock set-up of your Wedding Deco under your block before you book them?
Do you tell your Mak Andam to doll you up, siap ngan sanggung lintang satu set, kasi u duduk atas pelamin and tutup muka u ngan kipas bulu-bulu before you book them?
Do you tell your caterer to try masak bawah block you, eksen macam it’s your real wedding ah, before you book them?
Do you tell your kompang guys to selamba je try iring korang so that korang ley dengar bunyi kompang dia tu sedap ke tak before you book them?
All these you observe at other people weddings. U go for food tastings, you see the deco set-up at client’s place and you hear the kompangs during other’s wedding.
For cards, you are always welcome to see past works, feel the cards and such and see if you are comfortable with the material etc. It works the same way, baby.
With this, i know they always say the customer is always right.
But to me, if you wanna have a great wedding, foster a good relationship with all of your vendors.
It pays to be nice to people.